PEOPLE PLEASER

The sweet freedom that comes when you finally learn to say no is amazing, not to talk of the shock. I know this because for years I was living to please people, I didn't want to hurt anyone or be disrespectful before I knew it I was losing myself.  I would go any length to make my friends happy, lend my ear, be that shoulder do the little I could be make sure that whoever was okay, till exhaustion set in I was literally tired of listening to every tom dick and harry...I felt drained especially when the person had nothing to worry about and was just being stupid or making a fuss over nothing. I started thinking of the number of people dying daily on account of boko haram in my country and here you are telling me how your life sucks. The worst part was when I tried telling my issues and they too would be brushed off as nothing. I was like "wait! who died and made you royalty?" I think that was the trigger for me.
I couldn't do it again, I matter too
      Friendship is an exchange, one person can't be at the receiving  end all the time, and think that no one else matters.
   There are people that I would still go to the end of the world for, but these are people who would do the same for me too.  I think this has only made me a better person and has increased my life span, cause now I belong to me I'm no longer losing myself in the service of others. 

KEEP'N IT REAL

 Today I had an epiphany, at some point it's no longer what the heart wants but what is good for the heart. There are some choices you need to make even if it hurts simply because you can't keep wishing and hoping on a dream that might never happen.
        Life is really short and filled with regrets and time really runs, it's already April 2015 very soon it will be September and voila!! the year will come to an end and you will still be at the same place, situationship, circumstance etc.
      I'm not saying that being hopeful is bad, all we have in life is hope but at some point we have to get up, turn what is available to us to hope. And learn to be happy with our choices as long as it's good for our heart.


                         HAPPY NEW MONTH***

THE ONE

What's with these words that is so important to the other people in our lives? (family, friends, acquaintances) Why does everyone want to know if you have finally met "THE ONE"
   I used a picture on bbm (blackberry messanger) of a male friend and I as my display picture. Within a minute I got more than 5 messages asking me if he was "THE ONE". It didn't end there, I got an email from Astrology.com asking me if I was ready to meet "THE ONE" (I know the email is b.s). Hours after as I was watching a movie I kept hearing "THE ONE" over and over and it got me thinking that maybe I am being haunted by these words today. *just kidding*
What I really thought about was......What's "THE ONE" or who is "THE ONE"? Do I need to have "THE ONE" to be complete?

       WHAT'S REALLY IMPORTANT ABOUT HAVING THE ONE IN OUR LIFE? 

Do we need to be with the one to feel complete? Why are we always looking for the one?. That one thing, be it a man, woman, job, family, friend, opportunity......
 
     When will waiting for the one be done? Will we ever find "THE ONE" thing that will satisfy us. Or will we keep searching for "THE ONE". I think there will always be another "THE ONE" after we find "THE ONE" that we thought was "THE ONE" 

CONQUEROR

I'm sure that by now everyone has seen Empire, The Tv show not the movie. (I don't know if there a movie called Empire) Oh well moving on. Music always wins with me so, Empire is becoming one of my favourite tv show.
           The songs there are amazing :)
The song that I'm about to share today is the one that I love the most.
It's Estelle- Conqueror.
Truth is, I never heard this song till I saw Empire and now I can't get enough of it. I love the beats, lyrics, video...... I love everything about it..

This is the original version, In Empire she sang with one of the characters on the show and the duet was also AMAZZZZZZZIIINNNG.