2013

Internet has really dealt with me, I miss posting here and a lot has happened, well next year will be better for her dairy I will post everyday. Today is the last day am going to say goodbye to 2013 happily so much has happened I actually sat down and thought about it I have only been happy January, March, parts of September, October and November the year was not a good one for me at all, I learnt my strengths I picked up myself all the time at a point I was broken. I got into a relationship I should't have when I still had to heal and make peace with the past. I cried this year more than I did when I was a baby (hahahaha) Even though a lot of bad stuffs happened I met a few beautiful souls this year, I wish I could mention their names here they were amazing I could talk to then about all the b.s and they were never tired to listen even when what I said made no sense at all. December was the worst month of the whole year, and this month is supposed to be all groovy and joyfully well the good thing is I survived HELL YES I DID :). I found my voice this year too I learnt to say no I told more truths I leaned on God and myself only. My sister J showed me so much love this year God bless her. I learnt the beauty in being human, the strength that comes with vulnerability and hard times, the beautiful grin/ smiles after the most painful situations. I did a lot of growing am looking forward to 2014 it is going to be a good year I can feel it already.
HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS, THANK YOU FOR READING ABOUT MY CRAPPY,AWESOME AND BEAUTIFUL LIFE SEE YOU ALL NEXT YEAR. XOXOXOXO

J'ai besoin de quelqu'un aussi

There are days that I wake up and I don't just wanna talk, not that I'm angry I just don't feel like saying a lot I use days like this to think deeper, lay all my issues on my mind's table and figure out ways to deal with them. I used to have a lot of days like this but everyone complained I started sharing my issues and so far it has not worked they just listen nod and start telling me theirs. I'm always there for people in so many ways be it just listening, talking etc and this drains me mentally and emotional cause no one is there to listen to mine so I think I deserve my quiet days to try and figure things out or I will just go insane....... I already think I need to see a therapist so till I actually see one I need this inner peace. So when someone comes up and says that I've been ignoring him/her, stop first and ask yourself that maybe I need you more this time around cause I might be struggling inside. J'ai besoin de quelqu'un aussi

GRACE-FILLED NOVEMBER

I recently started something I give every month a name I call it what I want it to be for me, weird but it has been working so far :D, I believe words have power and we should be mindful of what we say cause it could actually happen. Not meaning to sound like a pastor :) I named this month Grace-filled November. Grace speaks for me this month, God's grace. Happy Grace-Filled November to everyone.

GRAVITY!!!

I don't know why I cried when I listened to this song, Damm!!!! I'm such a cry baby hehehehehe but this song is really beautiful and the lyrics mean so much to me I think I keep falling I need to be set free. Story of my life and it could just be all in my head alone and you are already free and I'm still down. Anyway it's another fav song of mine and despite what the lyrics mean to me and do to me I still think I should share the song with everyone. So here goes........

Internet na waoh!!!

I miss posting here  often if I was told I could stay for 2 weeks without going on the internet after getting so used to it I won't have believed but here I am, One of the disadvantages of moving some things take forever to be installed so while I wait with so much on my mind to write......... I guess I just have to wait till my internet is fixed and I am at a friend's place that's how I'm able to write this post, my blog looked abandoned :D. Oh well!!!! Laters.........

MY LIFE AND GRACE........IN GOD'S HANDS...

When I started this blog I wanted a place that I could write about my life, well parts of it somewhere I could think out loud, my deepest fears and emotions that I could and didn't want to deal with one in one so one could say that I started this blog as a ploy to be a little brave not mind who got to read it or who ended up being hurt with what I wrote all I wanted was to keep a little brave diary out there. :) Also after Talia Joy passed on her bravery and strength was the final push I needed to start. I wasn't in a good place when I started but as months passed things changed and I have been overwhelmed since then, still am.

Another Fav Song. Yay!!

I'm grinning as i'm writing this :) I love music and I love sharing the songs I love with everyone. So today's song is..........JAY Z "Holy Grail featuring Justin Timberlake. I think this song is DOPE :D I can't go 3 days without listening to it.That's how hooked I am.
  ENJOY ;)

BEAUTIFUL OCTOBER

Yesterday I started the insanity workout program, while I have no problems with the way I am now I would love to lose some weight because of health reasons. I am going to give it my all for 2 months and i know i'm going to see amazing results. While I was at it yesterday something popped up in my mind. We young women/ladies/girls (choose one) most of the time say 80 percent of the time talk about guys/men/boys (choose again)

SEPTEMBER TO REMEMBER.

I will never forget this month in hurry :). A lot happened like a lot, the good, the bad and the ugly. Friends turned their backs on me, i was admitted in the hospital cause of heart disease, i learnt how to step up my worship to God, i learnt how to depend on God and God alone, family let me down, all my pending prayers were answered, my hurt was healed, my tears stopped falling, i stood up for myself, in-short september introduced me to myself. At the end of it all i learnt a very important lesson that nothing just happens and nothing is wasted and God is on the throne. I wish i could write in details here it will be too long but everything workout for me. I have no worries i am entering october in grand style fully aware that God has my back always.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MUMMY!!

     In every smile, every tear and every cheer you were always there for me through the years supporting me    and providing me with all the energy i needed in order to stand in the game called life. Happy Birthday           Mummy and thank you for everything. I love you.

Growing up was fun, I had an amazing childhood thanks to daddy but something was always missing or rather someone and that is my mother. My mother and father were separated when i was little and daddy raised us, she visited as often as she could but my relationship with her wasn't like the one i had with my father. With daddy i was free but with mummy i was a little distance i would say to myself all the time why did she leave us, i felt she didn't deserve me getting close to her cause she left.

I AM A WORSHIPPER.

I can't believe it's been more than a week since i posted something here. A lot has been happening to me in the past week God has done great and amazing things in my life. Two days before everything happened, one of my friend told me that i am an un-serious person and if am not careful that i am not going to end up well. I have learnt that sometimes life throws unexpected things at you most of the time there is nothing one can do but pass through it, learn, grow and accept at the same time. That is where i was but i could not stop these things from happening and there was nothing i could do about it at the same time, so when she said these things to me i felt terrible but i did something that i have never done before i didn't cry which is still very shocking. (lol) I WORSHIPPED the most high. I went on my knees praised and worshipped God. A day after my God moved, He did the unexpected for me He healed my pain,answered me gave me hope showed me that He never left my side. My disappointments, tears made me strong. Now i am ready to be this amazing young woman and with God on my side there is nothing that will hold me back. In others news i got a new crib Yay!!! so i will be moving out soon i had to write it here first before i tell anyone. Gotta go call few friends and tell them. Laters!!!! 

SHE GROWS LOL.

I have so much to write about a lot has happened to me in the past two day, Good things :) but i am so busy putting a lot of things in place despite all the good stuffs going on am surprisingly very calm. Years back even last year self i would have been so excited and told the whole world and jumped up and down.  (Thank God for growth) anyway i can't wait to write about it here cause God has been so faithful, He is so good am amazed at his awesomeness and love.  I really miss writing here everyday.

INSOMNIA

I have been staying awake for days now, i cant sleep even my eating is affected, fear of the unknown is eating me up inside and  i just don't know how to stop it. Its really strange cause i could sleep through an earthquake and wouldn't even blink, i fear that i might be getting to the point where nothing excites me any more i just live and be thankful for a new day and that's all. My friend says it means losing hope and faith but i feel as if i have worked on my faith level and its a bit better am just scared. As if that is not enough i have a nag beside me, my gawd!!! this person can nag for AFRICA!!! jeez. I think i need to get away from everyone around me for a while cause even the concern is suffocating me. :(
Can school just resume? maybe that will take my mind away from stuff or not.

REAL LIFE DEMENTORS.

Dementor is a creature in the harry potter series, what dementors do is consume human happiness, creating an ambiance of coldness, darkness,  misery and despair. The feed on your happiness and make one feel sad and hopeless, Enough of the harry potter dementors. They are real life dementors, oh yea it might be a myth only in harry potter but trust me they are humans who behave like dementors, they derive happiness from making others feel bad about their mistakes or regrets once a human dementor sees that you have found peace and quiet despite the fact that you have challenges they start reminding you of your failures, mistakes etc. Things that will make you feel bad and make them feel good. I have seen enough dementors, so today when one started trying to feed on my happiness i just whispered to God and silently said 'i rise above' i din't allow it get to me i kept taking deep breaths till it passed. Now what baffles me is why??? why does seeing other people in a bad place makes some other people happy? that's pure evil. Anyway that's the world we live in.

2000. THANK YOU-TOUCHED

Woah!!! I am speechless, Today i checked my blog views and i saw 2000 pageviews. I never would have thought that my blog would make anyone wanna come back after the first visit, esp as its about one girl's life and considering the fact that its barely 3 months since i started, but you guys kept coming back and i love all the comments so far, even though a lot of them's from anonymous lol, but i really want to say THANK YOU to everyone who has viewed herdiarytoday, do come back often who knows my mistakes might help you not make the same or my complicated life might help make yours better. I appreciate everyone who reads and those who will read (in future) God bless you guys. 

Music and me :)

I am yet to see anyone who doesn't love music no matter the genre music has almost the same effects on people ie; it relaxes, heals,uplifts etc. Which ever way it works for you it still has a special effect on you. Music and me, I LOVE MUSIC well except jazz cause i don't really get it, but a good song makes me feel like i can soar, makes me feel like the sky is not the limit, but just a view. The feeling is magical, unexplainable. So i have decided to share songs that i really really love here at least twice a week and hope that whoever gets to listen to it would love it to and experience the magical feeling that i do when i listen to the songs. So here is this weeks song. YAY!!!
'Glitter in the air by Pink, the lyrics talks about the power of love and taking a leap in faith anyway enjoy.

HOME SICK.

Today is one of those days that i wish i was back home, I miss my siblings so much and it hurts. It's all good that i have few friends here but none of them can be compared to my friends at home. I really feel lonely and i like to call friends here people i know cause when it comes to friends being there for each other they are just full of empty promises. In a perfect world i would have been coming back to Malaysia today after my 1 week visit to Nigeria, but things don't always turn out as we plan. So the only thing left it to wait and let God's will be done. Dear Jesus, i know your plans for me are plans for good and not for disaster, to give me a future and a hope, but i am really lonely and i miss my fam and friends back home i would love to visit for a week or 2 and come back and continue my studies please Lord hear me. Amen

MY MALAY EXPERIENCE-FEB,MARCH,APRIL 2012.

I left my country Nigeria to Malaysia in pursuit of higher education, I have always wanted to be a lawyer while all my siblings did medical related courses i never thought of it even once, all i kept dreaming off was to be a lawyer so my journey to fulfilling my dream started in feb 2012. Lets just say that it din't go the way it should have, first someone i trusted betrayed me and messed up a lot of things for me. As if that wasn't enough i had to fall in love **rolling eyes**

FOUND A NEW MUSE.

I have been working on my new book for months now but i kinda paused for a very long time, see the thing is i think i am blessed with a creative and imaginative mind i have all this ideas running through every minute, i love it oh but i don't like writing (weird) i love writing a lot but am kind of a lazy writer ( help needed). Yesterday while i listening to Jennifer Hudson's bleed for love all i wanted to do was write, it was very strange the song triggered something inside, Music has never been my muse, my muse usually is someone a lover maybe but i haven't been in love in ages so my emotions has been acting as my muse till it kinda slowed. Now i have discovered music as my new muse. I feel un-stoppable :D. Dear God help me to use what you have already given me to be a blessing and an inspiration. Amen

Jennifer Hudson - Bleed For Love

I share songs that i love here occasionally, cause i think its worth others listening to it also especially a beautiful song like this. Its one of the sound tracks in the movie "Winnie Mandela. Enjoy

TRIBUTE TO DADDY; DR EDWARD UDO AKPABIO, MB,BS(Lond) ,OON

4 years ago today our lives changed forever, before this i only read about forever in books and heard forever after in movies i never really understood forever till you left us.
It still feels like yesterday cause its hard to think of my life without you in it. i find myself missing you so much, i wish i could talk to you, you were my hero, my rock, my everything. i break down in tears often and people ask "hasn't it been years, why are you still crying?" but they will never understand the bond you had with us.
I don't think i will ever learn how not to miss you everyday.

GIFT OR CURSE?

People always find it easy to talk to me, i like to think that am a good listener and i give good advice if i have to sometimes i just shut up listen and let you cry on my shoulder, and this has been happening for years now.

TO BE OR NOT TO BE???

Why am i always in this position? i HATE love triangles it never ends well with me. And it always happens,**sighing**(hmmmm) i don tire for real. Can you (husband) just come marry me so that this ends once and for all??? I have a lot to deal with not this oooooo. Now i have to lie or tell the truth whichever so help me God.

Lettre `a mon mari ( Letter to my husband)

No day passes by without me thinking of you, i keep wondering where you are? if we have met before? when you are going to come **rolling my eyes** yes when are you going to come? because she me her is ready and waiting. It gets really lonely at nights.

How to get a man by Eniola and Funke.

Funke of life. Lol

Hahahahahahahahaha

HOW I DEAL WITH HURT.

Another reason why i opened this blog was because.....i shut people out when i have serious issues i don't know how to talk about it, i don't know how to pretend and look happy and act as if all is well in my world when all isn't soooooo that is why herdiarytoday is here so that i can post it here. People are different and people handle things in different ways some drink, smoke weed, party, get angry with the world etc i simply shut people out. So i don't understand when am being blamed for wanting to be on my own especially this period, i don't have anything to be happy about talk-less of being  good company right now. Its either you accept me this way or don't this is me.

Dear Jesus.

I know i have made mistakes in my life, some of them because i was careless some of them not intentional but i am trying to make the best out of my life and right all the wrongs, this is my second chance at redeeming my mistakes please Jesus don't depart from me now, see me through and let everything work out let me find favour in your sight go before me my Father and Lord in Jesus name Amen. 

MY FETISH

I am beginning to think that washing my feet and legs often is really my fetish , cause i have an excessive and irrational commitment to it. I am always washing my feet and legs every time especially if i am cooking or cleaning or doing anything domestic, i pause every now and then go to the bathroom. There has to be a name for this somewhere but so far i am okay with it. Now to the problem, i am in a friend's house and i have been cooking and i really wanna go wash my feet and legs cause am feeling uncomfortable since i have been here for hours now and i have'nt washed them *covering my face** but then he is going to think am weird and looking weird is not on my agenda so instead i write about it here. :) . Okay its not working gotta go wash my feet and legs. Laters

Ranting

It beats me when i see people derive happiness in hurting others and seeing others sad, its like they feed on the sadness. The people am nicest to, hurts me most. Well am done i think its time to start being really mean after all no one here has my best interest the way i have theirs. 

Limits

Some people take advantage of friendship, you just gotta know the right thing to say and stop mocking someone and acting dumb about it YES we are budddies but you shuld know by now when to stop the HURTFUL playful words, its not funny all the time. I refuse to be upset this evening i have a lot to be grateful for. God is my father and He is on the throne i will never be put to shame. This just made my decision way easier please Jesus be with me every step of the way and provide for me. Amen.

Tamar Braxton - All The Way Home

My Girl Tamar!! YEA SHE DID THAT... lol  Am a #tamatian

OMG

Sometimes we wish we could un see some things..... i don't know how but i tried to log in to facebook and another persons facebook opened and its someone i know and she is cheating on someone i know. Yes i read her inbox am human so you cant really blame me. But what beats me is that this lady in question is one of these holier than thou girls, you know the very good girls that wanna throw up if they hear a girl has 2 bfs. Oh Edwina learn not to open everything now am stuck with knowing but cant talk syndrome.  ( A syndrome i made up)
 Knowing but cant talk means : Knowing a dirty secret but can't say anything cause of the person/ persons involved.
Chai!!!

My Soul Mate

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

Aww wook at za babee! NORTH WEST

She is sooooo beautiful, looks more like kanye than kim but she will def be a beauty.

Dr. Victor Olaiya - Baby Mi Da (Baby Jowo) remix ft 2Face Idibia (Offici...

LMAO

 

HAHHAHAHAHAHA, I like Kendrick but COMMON'!!!!!!!!!! Last time i check Jay wasn't moving outta New york.

Straight Up.....

GYM ASAP

I had been struggling with my weight its a constant battle, i workout, diet then fall off the wagon start all over again..... Well i need to start again 'HOLD UP' am not outta proportion i can still hold myself but for health reasons i need to really reduce. So back to this morning i woke up with severe pain in my left leg all the way from my thigh down to my feet, walking is almost impossible the pain is really bad i cant describe the pain but i think that's my body telling me "girl you gotta hit the gym" 

Na God.

So lately as everyone who has read my past post knows that she, me, her has been dealing with a lot of B.S not wanting to sound like a broken record well here is the latest on her (me) life. God has stepped in and am writing this here as a testimony cause the bible says in Rev 12-11 " And they overcame him by the blood of the lamb, and by the word of their testimony'' As a christian and someone who owes it all to Jesus. I am thanking Him cause He has started his good works in my life.
PRAISE JESUS!!

Forgiveness

Do we truly forgive? We all know the definition of forgiveness and when we get hurt the person who caused the hurt apologises and we say "oh yea I have forgiven you" let's fast forward time. 6 years you are talking to a buddy and then from no where you bring up past issues and then you talk about the hurt, Your face clearly shows that you are still hurt and 6 years back you said you had forgiven. So this is my question why do we remember the hurt? Why does the pain linger even when we had forgiven? Should'nt we forget and not talk about it? Another one is truly forgiving yourself over a silly mistake you made ages ago. What really is forgiveness without forgetting? Am not one of them girls that throw hurtful words to people once the open their mouths to talk BUT once in a while she gets upset and she says things she should not have said that happens once in 10 years. Instead i count 1 - 100 in my mind instead of talking back cause i know that even when we say we have forgiven it takes the special grace of God to forget esp for us girls, and word can break or make a person. If any one reads this post and i had done something to hurt you, directly or indirectly i am truly sorry please forgive and forget.  

My Unexpected trip to Perhentian Islands‎ / Summer Lovin'

My friend called me and was like "Are you free? its my man's birthday tomorrow and we wanna go to Perhentian Island and stay there for 3 days are you game? Of course i was so free the air would be jealous. (lol) So we went with her boo and his friends.

MY GOD IS AWESOME PASTOR CHARLES JENKINS

 Lately i have been going thru a alot but i decided to stop worrying and let God. I feel so good already i am healed. Praise Jesus

TGT - I Need

I could listen to this song forever.

L-life I-is F-fuckin E-exhausting

Another reason I opened this blog. Whenever am dealing with problems I shut myself out I keep it to myself and lock up, that's because I feel friends wouldn't understand cause people always see me as someone with no issues the rest sees me as someone with a lotta of issues and I don't know why these things happen but I think over the years I have become a master in dealing with things on my own and being alone but I am tired of being strong for myself I need someone to be there for me, someone to help me deal with these issues, now the real problem is how do I open up? They few people I open up too always find a way causing more pain than being there. The good thing now is that I can write down how I feel here and be a lil relieved. ( I hope) 

Space.......

Lately all the B.S going on in my life has really ruined all of my relationships with my friends and some family members even my sister that I talk to all the time I can't even talk to her. How much can 1girl take? Every time I find peace and a little happiness something really bad happens and takes away the sunshine. Now my friends are asking if they should give me space to deal with whatever it is that am going thru and the one friend i actually told had to come up with something to hurt me more, so basically i dont have anyone to talk to or lean on during this trying period. I wish i could believe or pray my faith is all gone am so sick of living. Am standing in the sun but surrounded by darkness, its so hard to reach out to the light.

Ritual

Recently I started a morning ritual. Lime/ lemon in a glass of warm water every morning. As we grow older we need to take care of ourselves more cause our body doesn't work the way it used to when we were much younger. Hahaha okay am sounding really old but the health benefits are awesome. So I am recommending a slice of lemon or lime in a glass of warm water every morning before breakfast to whoever reads this post.
Laters. 

Alcohol ASAP

Moments like this made herdairytoday created cause it would kinda strange to write it down in a book form diary. I am going thru serious b.s life is really crazy and it keeps dealing with me over and over and over, it finds ways of surprising me more and more. As a Christian I am going to believe and hope for the best I don't know about my faith cause to be honest it's really been difficult. All the sameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee I will survive.

Thank you Jesus.

I just got the worst news, my whole life is about to change I am broken and shattered and all I can think of is the story of joesph from the bible. I don't think am going to have any more tears left in me after tonight. I have thought of everything I can think of and I have a feeling the my blood pressure is rocket high right now. At least I can write down how I feel here. Once again Thank you Jesus because there has to be a bigger picture that I can't see here yet cause I refused to believe that You would let me down like this not possible Your promise are greater than this. 

Copy that!!

Matters of the heart

When does a heart stop breaking?

When does one stop loving their true love?

How many true loves can one heart handle?

Why does the heart wants what it can't have?

Why does it hurt so bad?

When does the heart finally decide to stop hurting?

How do we let go even when we reach the peak and there is no more to climb?

Matters of the heart will always be complicated, we can only put one foot in front of the other till we learn to walk faster and run eventually.

     Pearl Thorn.

Pelangi Utama condo, block F

So one of my flat mate just told me that he is heartbroken, I have never tried to hold myself from laughing out loud in a long time..... Common how can a guy with all the girls in this world be heartbroken? I really need someone to explain this to me. Hahahahaha 

Talia Joy Castellano Tribute Song by @RealGospelBoys

You inspired me a lot, truth be told i opened this blog because of you i was so touched by your strength, Your were such a beautiful soul. Rest in peace Talia Joy you are now among the angels.

Wahala dey.

For the past 2 days I have been thinking a lot about my height, lol (funny) but I have a feeling that I keep growing taller and that's scary. I used to think I was 6ft tall but I met someone who is 6ft tall and am taller than the dude and today I met a girl who is 6ft.1 and I am taller than her so there is a possibility that I am 6ft.2 ( my Gawd!!!... Scary) its hard enough to find my shoe size talkless of a tall man. Nawao!!!! 

Sigh!!

They is a big gap between theory and practice, everyday I keep saying today is the day I hope today will be the day cause I really need to start running or jogging at least.

DEEP

"Everyone wants to love a friend but not everyone can stand the dirt of friendship and friendship without dirt is just a good business platform"
Unwana Umana

BACK!!!

I have been gone for way too long I have a lot to write so much happened and made me question my faith not just in God but in myself. It's really bad for one to lose faith in his/ her self cause in the end u have no choice but to be there for yourself. Hmm I need to buckle up.

Sade Adu :)

I grew up in a house where music was second nature, My father loved music and my sisters were crazy about it too..(it beats me that none of them turned out to be a musician). Back then we were either singing, playing different indoor games or reading a novel.

CAN TODAY JUST BE OVER?

I am really looking forward to tomorrow,today has been a very crappy day. Started the day being pissed off. Everything is just falling apart. Oh well!!!! i will rise above.

WTF!!!!!!!!!

Am having a what the f%%k moment.....Seriously getting angry this early does'nt feel good at all. Now my whole day is gonna be messy just because a friend is having a hard time and am the one to blame, like WTF?? i thought before someone was blamed for something the person has or had to have done something wrong, welcome to my life today.......

Meeeeeeeeee

So I have decided am no more telling people about my blog. It's about to get really  personal, the fewer people who read it, the better. 

SoundSultan - Natural Something (Official Video)

  I Loveeeeeeeee this song. :)

Trailer Half of a Yellow Sun.

Enemies

 

This is one subject that people deal with everyday, who are our enemies? why do we think we have people who hate us?. I don't think its possible not to have enemies at the same time i don't think about them at all. I totally agree with Winston Churchill, once we refuse to follow the general public and live in a way they think we should animosity starts. Oh well who says i dont need enemies? In whose presence will God prepare my table? lol

Life

It beats me when people think i have it all together, No one has it all together totally. I break down more than anyone i know,am a constant wreak, but most of my friends say i have it all together all the time and sometimes it makes me so annoyed other times it leaves me speechless. i wish they knew the daily struggle i deal with maybe they would cut me some slack and stop seeing me as the "LUCKY ONE" Lord knows how many times i wish i had their lives. Beautiful pictures does'nt mean a beautiful life its make believe, some are photoshoped to look beautiful but once they see a beautiful picture of you and the background looks a little nice. BOOM!!!!! there they go again, i wish i could get used to it but i have tried and i cant. Your grace oh Lord.

Weight Loss

So I wanna write on one subject I know most people are familiar with, and something i struggle with all the time. WEIGHT LOSS. Yeah, most people are unto it, some get off and on the train (like me me). So is weight loss something one should do for a period, to fit into a particular dress or for a birthday? Or is it sustainable? 
I think it should be a total life style change. Dropping weight all of a sudden and gaining is not good for our health. So one should aim for a slow ( not snail's slow anyway ) but steady progress. I say, don't diet, eat healthy. That means cut out some junk permanently from your diet, reduce portions and generally eat healthily. This way u can enjoy the foods you love at a moderate level. Add that up with a minimum of 30 mins of exercise, 5 days a week and bam! Weight loss! 
What happens when we reach our goal weight? Do we stop watching the foods we eat? Do we stop exercising? That's why I think making it a life style change, ( i know, easier said than done) all we should do when we reach our goal is : if we had one cheat day in 2 weeks, we make it one cheat day a week ( Don't go overboard on cheat days! It's a cheat day, not a binge! ) if we were exercising 5-6 times a week, we can reduce to 4-5 times. As far as fitness is concerned there is so much to attain, bulking, wash board abs, etc. find a goal and work towards it. 
We are all a WIP ( Work in Progress ) with regards to this.. So try and make the journey a fun one, don't do exercises we hate, else it will be hard to commit to it. Experiment with healthy recipes, www.howdidshegetfit.com is a great one, the Internet has a lot to go through..as much as possible get people around us involved so that we stay accountable.. I pray i stay accountable after this post. 
God help us all. Cheers!!

Christina Aguilera - Beautiful

Not everyone cares what people say our think about them, But if you do this song is dedicated to you. We are beautiful, i hope it helps us walk with pride

Time

Lately everyone seems to be in a rush, The search for fast money, Women looking to settle down before it gets too late and ignoring the fact that there is more to marriage than just being a 'MRS'.  Men looking to make quick money at all cost not minding the consequences. No one stops to breath any more and  look around  to appreciate the beautiful things around us...I was talking to a friend the other day, She said that now there is no time nowadays to even wait and check the time.  Where are we all running too? we need to take a break, sit back and evaluate on what we really need, and work towards it instead of just chasing beautiful shadows.

African Men And Love

I asked an older friend (a guy) What is love to an African man? When its easy for him to keep a girlfriend outside even when he is married. And he said that love is being able to provide for your woman, spoil her with money and gifts, defend her in public that she should be content with that, and not poke her  nose into his other affairs that has nothing to do with her. Another guy who over heard us chipped in " An African man, will always keep another woman outside, its in our blood" and they laughed. This got me thinking are we (women) supposed to go into marriage expecting our husbands to have a girlfriend outside? Is cheating supposed to be acceptable cause "it's in their blood". I truly disagree oh, in church two people are joined together not three. Anyway maybe to most African men not my special African man when he comes along. lol 

   What do you guys think love is to an African man.

Rihanna's deliberate wardrobe malfunction

Rihanna ooooooooo, Haba!!! The pop star was pictured leaving her hotel room in stockholm, Sweden this afternoon wearing a transparent white T-shirt without a bra. Babe we know say you get fine breast already but is this what young fan and under-age kids who love and adore you should be copying?cause some of them will.

Perfection!!! Lol

Mehcad Brooks...

CLEAN SLATE

I was talking with a friend two hours ago about relationships, we started talking about coming clean about your past to your present boyfriend. She totally agreed but i have seen a lot of relationships where the ladies (esp) refuse to come clean, hiding bits and pieces from their present relationship because the think and insist that the man will not understand, this causes problems in the relationship when the truth comes out eventually. My mother often says don't go telling  a man everything he will use it against you someday (lol) but which one is better telling and risk him using it against you (if that really happens,i dont know o haha) or not telling and when the truth comes out everything crumbles, and trust is lost. Since both of them are likely going to end in disaster what's the point of lying? if it ends in the beginning it better than ending much later abi?

Stella Damasus Spits Fire!

Well done Aunty Stella,Great speech

SELF WORTH

No one defines our worth unless we let them...... 

Love

Love is not enough sometimes, I think happiness and personal peace is more important,with some people being in love is everything but others still feel a void even though they are deeply in love with their partner yet they still feel empty... I think acceptance of oneself is way more important,accepting all your flaws,mistakes,short-comings and just being happy. Be you, and then when love comes one would feel fulfilled. 

what do you think?

The beginning

Ok this is me testing the waters. Lets see how this goes. * winks**